Monthly Archives: August 2018

Carry One Anothers’ Burdens

“Can my daughters and I sleep in your garage? We are being kicked out and have no place to go.” I was caught by surprise when my neighbor showed up and made such an interesting request. Our garage can barely fit a car inside it. It has one power outlet and one light. My answer, “definitely not! If you need a place to stay, you can stay in our home.”

We have become friends with our neighbor and her three girls over the past six months. The three girls are 9, 13, and 14. they moved in the day after we did. Ary and Owen had so much fun being adored by these girls. At first they would come over and knock on our door so they could play with Ary and Owen. As we got to know them, I noticed the girls were often home alone. Then I noticed that the oldest girl didn’t go to school. When I asked her about it, she said that they didn’t have enough money for school fees, a new uniform, and all her books and supplies. Once they had saved up enough she would be able to go. About once a month she would come to me excitedly about how she would be going to school next week but then next week would come she still wasn’t able to go. Then, when they started coming over after school, the girls would ask for food. They hadn’t eaten all day.

It turns out that this seemingly happy family was having hard financial times even though both parents are working. Also as is quite common lately, we discovered that the dad had a girlfriend and was not caring for his family as he ought to. So, when they were kicked out of their apartment, we took the three girls to temporarily live with us.

It was quite an adjustment going from two children to five especially with two teenagers. Thank God that he works us up to teenagers and doesn’t give the to us right off. Keeping up with everyone’s needs like food, clothes, and sleep were exhausting for me. Ary and Owen were now sharing a small room that had just enough room to put their beds and a dresser. We had to move most of Ary’s things from her closet to Owen’s closet to make room for the girls to have room to put their things in Ary’s closet. Ary and Owen did not like the idea at first of sleeping in the same room. Owen still wakes up in the night and so neither of them slept well. Ary also woke up Owen in the morning and at nap time quite frequently.

Our grocery bill jumped up quite a bit and cleaning became a bigger priority with more people living in our home. Ryan and I had to wake up earlier so we could get the girls off to school. We always made sure that they had something to eat before they left and made lunches for them. I think the hardest thing for me is that I had no down time ever. As soon as I got Ary and Owen down for a nap, the girls got home from school and wanted my attention.

As hectic as our lives became, I can’t imagine how the girls felt as their world became flipped upside down, living away from their mom and dad. I was glad that we could be there to provide a little stability in their lives while they finished up their last three weeks at school and more importantly, exams. Even in the chaos, I hope Ryan and I spoke into their lives. Many people were shocked that we even took these girls in, saying we were crazy. The girls were just aching for love and boundaries. We gave them that and they were great kids. We don’t have tv in our home so we ended up listening to music, talking, and playing board games a lot more. Plus we got them to study for their exams. I learned first hand about Black culture here in South Africa

We were able to take a lot of pressure off the girls’ mama. She was so overwhelmed and downtrodden that she had considered suicide. She said, she could never repay us for what we had done. She asked if we were really angels in disguise. I told her, “no, we are just people who are obeying God and helping our sister in Christ.”

We are told to carry each others burdens in Galatians 6:2. I was listening to a sermon about this passage when I was getting more frustrated with the situation we were in. The pastor said that the word burdens refers to trouble that the person got themselves into. So often I find I don’t want to help people because they got themselves into this trouble by their bad choices. They are just reaping the consequences of their decisions. God put this on my heart, “Did I leave you alone to reap the consequences of your sin? Did I leave you to spend eternity in hell?” It changed the way I look at helping people and bearing one anothers burdens.

After school was over, the mom and dad were able to take the girls home with them. I have not heard from them since. I have tried to communicate with them but there is no reply. Please pray for this family.

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